What Is Spiritual Bypassing?

Spiritual bypassing: Using your spiritual practices to avoid personal growth.

Are you avoiding growth with your spiritual practices?  Join me for a discussion about spiritual bypassing and how we can use our suffering for growth and consciousness expansion.  (Watch the video below!)

Spiritual bypassing is using our spiritual practices to avoid our suffering and avoid our personal growth. 

Yes meditate for clarity and clear mind and heart. Yes meditate to connect with the universe, but when you fight with your partner don’t meditate it away. 

Use your spiritual practice to take personable responsibility. To look deeply with compassion and curiosity into your part. What are your unconscious wounds being played out here?

We heal when we move towards our suffering, our pain, our ego… not turning away from it or trying to transcend it. 

Check out the video below for more info about spiritual bypassing.

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xoKim

Spiritual Bypassing. With Kim Burris, Holistic Therapist in El Dorado Hills, CA.

The Transcript:

 Hello, beautiful people. Today I want to talk about spiritual bypassing.

It's a subject that's near and dear to my heart, and I think commonly misunderstood. So I'm gonna try to make it quick and easy, and give you some tidbits to think about.

So first and foremost, spiritual bypassing is when we are using our spirituality and our spiritual practices to avoid our personal growth, our human growth, or hoping that we don't have to do that work of looking at our relationships in a particular way... So an example being: you're fighting with your partner, your relationship is feeling really hard, you're struggling with your kids o… people, I think that's a good place to start.

Because most of us are struggling with other people in some way, because being human is hard. So if we're struggling in our relationship, we can say things like, if we're spiritually bypassing…say things like, well, if I just meditated enough or, you know, read more spiritual teachers or did more yoga, then I wouldn't be upset about these things.

So yes, on one hand, of course our spirituality, our spiritual practices are grounding and nourishing, are gonna provide an increase in our capacity to do deep spiritual work. But spiritual bypassing is when we say, if I just did more meditation, if I did more mantras, if I just prayed more, then I wouldn't be upset or mad at this person. I wouldn't be struggling anymore.

And if you can see the subtlety there, it's that we miss the opportunity to grow. So we miss the opportunity to use being human and use our psychology. Like what our inner child wounding is, what our attachment wounding is, what our subtle or not so subtle traumas are that are keeping us from being at our full capacity, which includes our spiritual capacity and evolution.

But we can use the idea of spirituality: If I was just more spiritual, then I wouldn't be upset about…you know, my husband or my child or whatever, I wouldn't be jealous. I wouldn't be insecure. So the invitation here is to really just check in with yourself, using your spirituality for the deepest and highest level of growth and evolution that you can, and just be checking in to see, am I saying things like this to myself?

Oh, if only I were more spiritual than I wouldn't be upset. Whatever it is, that's usually a great place to go deeper into your spirituality, get some support for looking at where can I grow and evolve here by using my humanness, using my struggles, not just using my spiritual practices to not have struggles.

Cuz you're human, you're gonna struggle. Being human is a wild, wacky ride.

Those are my thoughts. I hope that feels helpful for you. If you have any questions, shoot me a message. And if you want more support in this realm, working with a spiritual therapist to look at some of your deeper programming, some of your childhood woundings that might still be showing up and interrupting, interfering with you being your best self, send me a message. and book an appointment below.

Me and my team are here. We work with clients all across California and would love to support you. All right, take care. Talk soon. Bye.

-Kim

Meet Kim

Kim is a licensed holistic psychotherapist with deep roots in the worlds of yoga, meditation, and mindfulness. She honors the mind, body, spirit connection and supports individuals struggling with anxiety, depression, spirituality, and motherhood. Kim offers evidence-based treatment with a heart centered approach, integrating the depth of western psychology with the heart and soul of eastern mysticism. She helps her clients unravel the root cause of their suffering and to live from the heart of embodied wisdom. Kim currently offers holistic counseling in-person in El Dorado Hills and San Francisco, CA, and online therapy for individuals residing anywhere in California. Call/text to set up at appointment at 916.467.9539 or book an appointment via the link below.